Absolute DMV
Absolute DMV
Battling COVID to Cuffing Season and more... LEX is now here!
Picture this: Ace Boogie battling COVID like a warrior and coming out with a story that makes you laugh and think. We kick off this episode by comparing the OG COVID strains to the newer, seemingly gentler ones, and discussing how the fall season might bring a surge in cases as we retreat indoors. From vaccinations to the importance of a healthy lifestyle, we share laughs and practical tips to keep you fit and fighting during these times.
As the weather cools, the conversation heats up around cuffing season. Imagine finding a winter partner as strategic as drafting a sports team, transitioning from a carefree “hot boy summer” to a cozy, committed winter. We explore the seasonal rhythm of relationships, from spring breakups to the thrill of new prospects with sundresses. It's a playful yet insightful chat about how love and attraction evolve with each season.
Then, we dive deep into the nitty-gritty of relationships and finances. What happens after the honeymoon phase? We highlight the importance of continuous effort, romance, and personal growth, especially in those crucial first six months. The debate gets fiery as we tackle whether leading with money builds a solid foundation or sets shaky expectations. We wrap up with a spirited discussion on financial responsibilities, balancing modern self-sufficiency with traditional roles. Tune in for a blend of humor, real-talk, and advice that’s as practical as it is entertaining.
D&V. Welcome everybody to another episode of the Absolute D&V Podcast. It's your man, ace Boogie, and I am here with a few good guys and Lex. What's going on?
Speaker 2:guys how?
Speaker 1:y'all doing today.
Speaker 2:Happy Friday.
Speaker 1:My man Mark Can't complain. My man Mark Can't complain, my man Ego.
Speaker 3:On the board.
Speaker 1:And our girl Lex. What's going on, baby Auntie?
Speaker 3:Lex Aunt, lex Lex in the city, however you want to call it.
Speaker 2:How you going to take over my little.
Speaker 3:I'm just saying I want to introduce you, though for real. Why do we always have a problem with that? Keep going.
Speaker 1:Lex, you always have a problem with that. Keep going.
Speaker 4:Relax, Introduce yourself please Can I get my time? Yes, she's reclaiming her time. I'm reclaiming my time.
Speaker 1:What a dude does.
Speaker 2:What's going?
Speaker 1:on how you doing Chilling, chilling.
Speaker 3:Oh my God, how you doing All right. So, ace, what's up yo? It's been a long week for me, though. How about?
Speaker 1:you, bro, I'm going to keep it a buck. Your boys survived the bout with COVID, oh yeah, I didn't even know I had it.
Speaker 3:Spreading germs and shit.
Speaker 1:Bro, it's crazy, I didn't know I had it. Luckily, I'm one of those people who decide when I'm sick I'm going to actually stay home Nice.
Speaker 2:Good call.
Speaker 1:Respect Just because, and especially nowadays, you don't know if it's COVID or cold or whatever it is.
Speaker 4:That's why you over there.
Speaker 1:That's the reason why I'm on the boards. I can spread shit.
Speaker 3:I got that old COVID.
Speaker 1:The way I see it, is any reason to take off from work.
Speaker 4:All that yeah I'm gonna take it, so that's a good call. A little, a little, I'm taking off well, you earn it, I'm taking off, better use it so you know it is gonna be crazy this fall because all the kids the first week of school they're all spreading that again for the first time.
Speaker 3:But isn't there a new strain?
Speaker 4:There is a new strain. Yeah, I'm going to be honest, it's weak.
Speaker 1:It's weak, you got weak, although it does spread easily. You call it some millennial COVID. I'm going to tell you right now that JZ COVID that.
Speaker 3:JZ. Covid that JZ.
Speaker 1:Hey, the first COVID, the first one, that was a GX, that was a silent generation.
Speaker 3:That thing whooped my ass.
Speaker 1:That first COVID whooped my ass.
Speaker 2:That was straight out of World War III. Did you tell anybody?
Speaker 1:No, no, no, I was in the crib.
Speaker 2:When it first came out it was kind of scary. It was bad.
Speaker 3:It was crazy scary. I wasn't scared.
Speaker 1:It was bad. The worst part about it was you were sick and silent.
Speaker 2:Still no, no, no.
Speaker 1:This is why I'm so mad, because for the longest I went without getting vaccinated and I literally got vaccinated. Within six weeks of me getting vaccinated, I caught COVID. I was so mad bro, I was like yo, what the point? But whatever, I took the vaccine. You did a few rounds. I did the vaccine and the second one I just put some crack on it. That was it. You know what I'm saying, bro.
Speaker 3:You was only going to be able to shoot me up twice bro, I couldn't do it no more, I just put bleach on it.
Speaker 4:You did the Trump thing you put bleach on my body are you drinking the Clorox though?
Speaker 3:no, I couldn't afford Clorox. I went to. I went to big. I went to big locks.
Speaker 1:I went to big locks don't take any COVID advice from me, I'm just saying this new one was weak.
Speaker 3:I think it was different. I think it was different, I think it was different for everybody. You ain't miss no work, huh nah.
Speaker 1:I miss work. Like I said, I took off work just cause I had to, but that's all it was.
Speaker 3:It was just a little cause they didn't play any vice. Oh, you ain't miss no money. Oh, I ain't miss no money you ain't miss no money.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that PTO is working.
Speaker 4:The thing that I worry about, though, because it is I heard that for a lot of ways that this one is it gets. It's less and less like it's more diluted but it spreads easier. So it's like you're going to catch it but you won't feel that bad. But then I guess there's a lot of studies which is still like very unknown, which is, I guess, a scary part of like stuff that can happen later in life when you've had COVID more than once, multiple times.
Speaker 3:I think your body is adjusting.
Speaker 2:I think so too.
Speaker 3:I hope so I honestly think it's a different form of a flu. It's a different form of a flu.
Speaker 4:Sure, I'm not saying the vaccine, but the illness itself.
Speaker 1:If you want to get vaccinated, get vaccinated. If you don't take your vitamin C's, eat your vegetables, get your nutrients up, do what you got to do A shot of bleach.
Speaker 2:You know what?
Speaker 4:Don't do it.
Speaker 1:Hey, whatever you feel like you need to do to be healthy, do that Okay win that Exercise, hit the gym run.
Speaker 3:I mean even the thing about it that's the only thing that's crazy about this, because he's the most healthiest person we pretty much have of COVID yeah no, anybody can get it. A flu happens, right. But then I heard people like healthy as hell who ran marathons died because of COVID. But we that's here or there, Fuck this shit.
Speaker 2:No, but we have to think about this. We're going into fall, it's going I think the fall season don't get scared of it the fall
Speaker 1:season people coming inside. I mean get togethers, cause it's football season, it's a bar season, it is. That's how I'm gonna get it.
Speaker 3:I said that we're talking about the four months is September, october, november and December. That's the only bar.
Speaker 1:Can everybody see the bar? No facts, Because I can't wait. I can't wait. Thank God it's football season.
Speaker 3:Long sleeves.
Speaker 1:Oh, I love fall, I love fall fashion.
Speaker 3:Check out Ace's fit. Right now he's pre-season. Right now, he's pre-season.
Speaker 1:Hey, y'all already see me. You know what I'm saying. I will show y'all the kicks.
Speaker 2:Not the leg up. You know what I'm saying? I will show y'all the kicks.
Speaker 1:Little accent here and there. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:This is how we do it in the DMV.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:He got to get up and turn around now, and this is old nigga style.
Speaker 1:This ain't even a young boy style. This is old nigga style.
Speaker 2:So you know what I'm saying? Old ass nigga, he's not even 40.
Speaker 1:I'm not 40, but you ask the young boys 38 is.
Speaker 3:All right, all right, you old ass motherfucker hey.
Speaker 4:Mark you mark, like I know you, you had some starting this week, whatever shit. Yeah, I just started school again, uh, getting my uh occupational therapy degree uh, which has been uh big up yourself appreciate that.
Speaker 4:Thank you, you know, for working the therapy center and everything, but it's been, uh, it's been a big adjustment. This is the first semester, you know, with, with covid, and everything was doing online learning. Now I'm at the point where I'm getting into the classes and classrooms are open again, so I'm having to go in person and that is kind of troublesome because it's in Catonsville, which is like all the way. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Right, I need to buy a lunchbox. Legit, yo Legit.
Speaker 4:No because it's far.
Speaker 3:Are they separating the seats though, like you know how like? No, no, it's pretty much like Back to normal. There's no more COVID restrictions.
Speaker 4:It's basically yeah, like if you can mask, if you want, if you're vaccinated. Yeah, they're just kind of assuming everyone's gotten their shots, everyone's cool with it. You know, if you want a mask, you can mask. If you don't want a mask, you can't mask.
Speaker 3:I got a question. You don't have to. I got a question for all y when you cough, do you feel some type of way when you cough now?
Speaker 2:Absolutely not.
Speaker 3:Do you know how, back in the day, when motherfuckers coughed, you're like shit, I shouldn't cough.
Speaker 4:I will say this though that hurts, to hold it in a cough, I feel some type of way. If it's a lot, though, for instance, I was on a plane back from Armenia and on my way back I had to put on a mask for myself, just because the lady a row away from me was for like an hour and a half was coughing nonstop and she had no mask on, and she was like I'm talking, like she had the airplane, the complimentary pillow, like dying into it, and I felt bad. The people next to her were just ignoring, like phasing her out, and I'm like yo, like, are you good? I mean, it was a long flight. It was like from Armenia, I think it was like eight or nine hours. We did a layover in gosh, I don't even remember where, and then we did that.
Speaker 3:That's where the COVID came from.
Speaker 4:I would have been like why isn't the stewardess bringing a mask for this lady, like at that point?
Speaker 1:No, I would have been like angry, angry, angry, like you said. I mean, I don't really care about a cough here and there, but if you are coughing repeatedly to the point where you really seem sick and we are in a little tube like come on, bro, that's insensitive to a certain extent and I think planes are the most germ infested places anyways, like I mean, it's a bunch of people and uh yeah, different germs, different things, or whatever it's other than that.
Speaker 3:I'm sorry to cut you off because oh, no, no, no let's keep it.
Speaker 2:Eric, always cutting people off? No, like we said it's what I do that's a DMV thing, the 495.
Speaker 4:You cut the name one off.
Speaker 3:Hey, guess what it's? Because I have a tight ass and they're pressing brakes Because my collar is up right now.
Speaker 2:Yeah, fuck that.
Speaker 1:It's not just the collar, it's the button Button all the way up to the top. So you got a short sleeve button, so I'll make it work.
Speaker 3:No, but yeah, I got my new band on, though it's that time.
Speaker 1:It's that time the seasons have changed and it's that time in the DMV, not just football season, I think.
Speaker 3:So let's talk about okay. So quick question who's into football in this industry? Yeah, I did, I did, I did. Damn he was almost done.
Speaker 2:I did, I did Damn. He was almost done. I was literally on it. It was at the tip.
Speaker 3:Take it to the fucking log, motherfucker. Take it to the fucking log. Okay, he started on that. I'm antsy, I'm antsy as shit, nigga. All right, so my bad Ace, go ahead and go. My bad, hey, guess what? Now you got to tell you to go. I'm going to go meet my mic.
Speaker 4:I'm sorry. He said you're taking too long. I'm going to make this take even longer no. Now I'm going to pass the mic back to you and you're incapacitated. You can't even talk.
Speaker 3:This is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 4:Hey eyes Now bro, somebody start the conversation, somebody. Somebody Take the wheel, somebody the word was literally coming off my tongue.
Speaker 2:I was thinking. I was like nah, fuck it, okay, speaking of coming. Oh shit, we were talking about Pause.
Speaker 1:Pause. Palsy pause, pause.
Speaker 2:It's also cuffing season officially, because fall is what? September 20th?
Speaker 4:I guess, according to the school system, fall is like mid August. I guess is when school starts.
Speaker 3:No, it's still summer. It's still summer, school started. School started on August, I guess is when school starts again.
Speaker 4:No, it's still summer. It's still summer. I think it's School started. I'm just saying school started on 20th of August or whatever.
Speaker 2:It's like the third week of September.
Speaker 4:I'm going to use Google real quick because I don't know when fall the season starts, but I just know it's.
Speaker 1:I be professional, I don't got my phone on me.
Speaker 3:Guess what.
Speaker 2:It's still still hot it's the dmp, yeah, yeah. So I mean it's not right now. Season is pre to cuddle season, so I mean let's talk about that, it's no cuddle season.
Speaker 3:I'm fucking up everybody. Look at this, motherfucker, it's all fucked up. I fucked ace up big time. Nigga, it's not teflon, don't All right? So okay, so all right. Cuffing season.
Speaker 1:Go ahead bro. No, go ahead, bro, go ahead, Keep going. You got it. You got it, go ahead. I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3:Cuffing season, you got it. So cuffing season is, I guess, are you cuffing shit?
Speaker 4:Well, it's essentially like if you're dating and you're single, you're not in a relationship. But winter comes and it's like you don't want to be going out to bars and dating and everything when the weather is hostile, so it's kind of like.
Speaker 1:the theory is when the weather's cold, you want something warm to cuddle up to. I feel you. Is that true?
Speaker 3:So is it more of a dating term or is it more of like again, is it a wide?
Speaker 2:term for everything. I think it's situational, like during football season. I want to watch football with you soon You're cuffing.
Speaker 3:Are you cuffing or you're partaking? I?
Speaker 2:think that's a cuff.
Speaker 1:No, it's definitely a cuff If you want to do it with one person that's the whole thing, it's definitely a cuff that that around this time is the time when people want to do that, because nobody want to be in the wintertime snowed in by themselves.
Speaker 3:So aka draft season, so you're drafting your it's combine yeah, yeah, yeah, it's combine season.
Speaker 1:There you go. You know what I'm saying? Everybody is.
Speaker 3:They're putting their picks in.
Speaker 1:They got to make sure who the draft pick is going to be, who the top picks are going to be who the top picks are going to be. Trying to put together a roster, trying to trim down the roster yeah, but your options. No, but you're trying to trim down the roster.
Speaker 3:You got a team.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying Because there's hot stakes.
Speaker 2:You know I'm not single, but I can imagine if someone's single and they're trying to figure out who they're want to make a bad choice.
Speaker 1:It was hot boy, summer it was hot boy summer so you probably had a good, maybe three, hopefully four that you had, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3:Are you playing space? You know what I'm saying? Three in the possible, three in the possible.
Speaker 1:Hopefully you had three in the possible to choose from you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 4:All you need is two.
Speaker 1:When it so when they come around football cuffing season, you know what?
Speaker 3:I'm saying you start trimming that roster down. Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1:You be like you know what she cool, but I can't be around her for too long, so that's the whole season.
Speaker 4:then Hot boy, summer, cuffing season, cuddling season.
Speaker 1:No, hot boy. Summer is definitely the combine and then break up. You just finding everything.
Speaker 4:Yeah, spring is the break up.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, combine, and then break up, you just finding everything. Yeah, spring is a breakup.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah, spring is definitely the breakup, because that's when the sundress is starting to come back on. Yeah, that's when you're like I need options back. I gotta get back on the roster. And the cycle continues. Oh yeah, you get your free agency.
Speaker 2:Yeah, free agency, but you wouldn't be a free agent if somebody kept you now, would you no?
Speaker 3:but the thing about it is when the weather changes, people's feelings start to change. You start looking at other contracts.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you start seeing other prospects Because when the weather changes and sundresses come out, you be like hold on, she been working out this whole winter we back to different right.
Speaker 2:Men with self-control know how to go to work without looking at asses. Who?
Speaker 1:Why can't, why can you not look, mark? You don't look at asses, do you? Yeah, no, he don't yeah.
Speaker 3:What's the problem with looking? Yeah, no, his eyes. We have eyes you can't.
Speaker 1:You can't appreciate the work that you put in.
Speaker 2:Yeah, see it goes against the rules of cuffing.
Speaker 3:No it what I can't.
Speaker 2:I have eyes. No, we about to spend the rest of the evening together. Give me your Netflix password, okay.
Speaker 3:Yes, I'm going to be on the couch already. That's cuddling, that's cuddling. I appreciate you for all that. Don't look up the self-proclaimed chefs on.
Speaker 1:Instagram you pass, you pass. Don't follow somebody's recipe and make it together. But Keisha from HR got a fat ass and I do know that.
Speaker 2:But she missing.
Speaker 1:Her side too, she might be she might be, but that ass is fat and I like to look at it. I ain't doing nothing, but I just like to look at it.
Speaker 2:So what keeps you going home?
Speaker 3:You ain't going home with these shit. So are we done with the cuffing season. Now we're going into like the academy shit, like yo, y'all jumping around timelines and shit, just fucking me up.
Speaker 1:If you would just let it happen.
Speaker 2:Okay, it would happen. I'm confused. I'm confused, if you would just let it.
Speaker 1:It's literally happening organically right now. If you would just let it happen, it would happen, I promise. Call the police.
Speaker 4:Hello, 911?. Hold on, what were you saying? The name for a black Karen was before Keisha.
Speaker 3:Keisha.
Speaker 1:Oh shit, man, Nah, nah, but yes. So with. With that being said, what was he talking about? No, no, with that. With that being said, after you have cut down your roster and it's a two it gotta be two.
Speaker 2:No, no no, no.
Speaker 1:After you cut down your roster and you made your pick, you've cuffed. Okay, what do you? What are you going to do to keep that partner? What are you going to do to keep that man Ego? What are you going to do to keep that woman?
Speaker 3:I was about to say you better say nothing.
Speaker 2:Yeah, ask him first so he can get it all out.
Speaker 1:I don't need to do shit.
Speaker 3:I already did enough the whole year to fucking keep, so I don't need to do anything else, you just cuffed her.
Speaker 1:I just cuffed her, so y'all are within six months.
Speaker 4:Like it's very new in the relationship. You guys are still getting to know each other. What?
Speaker 1:are you doing to keep this woman I?
Speaker 3:am that type of person that already did all the work in the beginning, so it is what it is.
Speaker 2:That sounds crazy. Yep, it's already done.
Speaker 1:He said within six months, you should know what this is.
Speaker 3:Yeah, because again I should already after six months is too damn long. Three months cause.
Speaker 2:I already put it. That's not long. You talking about lifetimes with someone. Think about it cause.
Speaker 3:Think about it when you're doing cuffing, you're doing a lot of work to prove yourself like dating what's a lot of work. Break that down money, time, uh, effort of actually proving you, you're pretty much putting picking up bitches, they. Oh. This is one person you're cuffing. You're trying to put your your, you're giving your resume and you're trying to prove yourself right, but six months, if you're still doing the same shit in six months, you're fucking wasting your fucking time.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm trying to say so I've already anger you go. Yes, hold on hold on, hold on, on hold, on hold on. It ain't felt like that, right, mark?
Speaker 1:Hold on, hold, on, hold on Ego. After you get drafted, you still got to go out there and perform. Hello, you got, and the hopes is to have a long career. So what are you talking about?
Speaker 2:Why are you saying everything that I did in college enough? Yep, that's wild. I'm Al Bunny. I live off that my four touchdowns at Polk High in one game is all I need.
Speaker 3:You still do what you do for the person. You can still go out, you still hang out, but if y'all are already clicking and y'all are good, oh you're talking about the chase, like I'm not going to keep chasing if it's not. You know what I'm saying. Keep chasing for cuffing all year round.
Speaker 2:So y'all talking about two different things. He's talking about how to establish. He said after the six months. And you're saying the relationship is established.
Speaker 1:Because what I'm saying is if you've met that woman, if you met that woman and you guys decided to cuff. Excuse me If you met that woman and you decided to cuff her, and now y'all are in for Wait, tell me who's deciding Whoever.
Speaker 3:I mean, y'all have both decided. Y'all have mutual, it has to be mutual right. Yeah, even though most times.
Speaker 1:it's not, it's just a woman telling you one day that, hey, we together.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because her draws is now in your draw, your draw.
Speaker 3:She pissed all over that shit. You know what I'm saying. So, like I was thinking, like you said, that after six months I'm thinking timeline, I'm thinking like I already did the work for like the cuffing season for six months.
Speaker 2:It's not work, but it's almost like in a relationship almost I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:That's just to get her Mark.
Speaker 2:Mark has some good advice.
Speaker 1:Within six months you haven't moved in with her, so it's not like you are paying her bills. So I'm not saying nothing like that. I'm saying what type of romantic gestures are you doing to keep the relationship fresh, the spark Yay.
Speaker 4:And not even like romantic gestures. It could be romantic gestures, but like what you know is it like the functionality of it?
Speaker 2:The functionality Like what you know? Is it like the functionality of it?
Speaker 3:Keeping in touch with her, talking to her like this being.
Speaker 2:Getting this money. Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 3:Do you know what I'm saying? That effort is already been doing, like she's already know that's happening or whatever.
Speaker 1:Again, that's what I'm saying, that's assumed.
Speaker 2:If you're interested in that one person, you relationship, you really have to be a dope individual within your own right. You better still be making this money. You better be taking care of yourself. You better be, you know, a righteous person overall, because I mean, honestly, if you meddling in some bullshit, you're going to be, you know, full of shit.
Speaker 1:Look, I'm going to tell you, young man, I'm going to tell everybody if you lead with your money, that's what they're going to follow.
Speaker 2:Well, listen, we didn't make the game. No, no, no, no, no, no, we're just playing the game no.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying don't get money. I'm not saying don't get money I'm. If you are the type that you lead with money, that is what they're going to follow. So the moment that that money is no longer there or you're no longer doing what you did with that money, they're no longer going to be there.
Speaker 2:Well, think of it as someone that's like a financial expert, you know, that knows how to make money work and how to, you know, save and all that stuff Either way.
Speaker 1:If you realize, hey, I had this much money in the beginning, I splurged a lot, so now I'm tightening up. She could leave you because now you're not splurging the way you used to. I think that is a real thing and that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4:So it's not like you broke, you're just tightening up because you're trying to make that money last, but it sounds like that's where the difference of like what else you would bring in the relationship. Like obviously a connection or gestures doesn't always have to be money based to add value For most time when you were a man.
Speaker 1:you're going to have to have that money. Okay, that's just what it's coming down to.
Speaker 2:Why would you entertain a relationship if you're not going to be?
Speaker 1:with money. You shouldn't date if you don't have money gonna be so with money, because the idea, if you know, if you don't have money, because the idea behind that is, as a human being, as a adult, you are gonna have to pay 100 of your bills if you are single. So now, if you've combined with somebody and y'all are able to do the 50 50 thing, I mean I'm not a 50 50 yeah, I don't know what that is.
Speaker 1:I'm not a 50-50 nigga. Yeah, I don't know what that is. I'm not a 50-50 nigga. I believe in paying all the bills as a man. Just because I— Because you want the power.
Speaker 3:No, not even just the pride, the idea behind it is— you want the power.
Speaker 1:No, it's the functionality If you leave—.
Speaker 2:That was my $50 word.
Speaker 1:No, if you leave if you leave now, I have to figure out where that money comes from. So if you leave?
Speaker 2:Why are you dependent on it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm no longer. I'm not dependent, so I know that my money that's so dependent.
Speaker 2:That's what I said.
Speaker 3:That's true, so you can leave scot-free so it's not showing power, because then now she has to worry about because she hasn't paid any bills and she was relying on you.
Speaker 2:No, it's powerful to lay down your power and let someone else lead.
Speaker 3:She has to stay with you because you.
Speaker 1:Because, more than likely, she's a woman in the 21st century. She's working yes, and that's what I was saying. So she has her money, it's powerful.
Speaker 2:For me to allow you to lead, I'm going to take a backseat to you and I'm going to allow you to lead. That means that I'm going to allow you to be who you are, but you have to be a self-standing man for me to allow you to do that. To take care of me is really a privilege, because I'm trusting in you that you're going to do that. But don't get it twisted, because I do it for myself. But don't get it twisted.
Speaker 1:I understand the 50-50 niggas also Because, like I said, if you had to pay 100% and now I can instantly bring that down to 50.
Speaker 3:I can instantly bring that down to 50.
Speaker 1:I can instantly bring that down to 50. You can save, you can save. Why would you not fuck with me? Yeah, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:I think that's a nice starter kick If you look at it. No, it's not a starter kick.
Speaker 1:It's a starter kick because don't get it twisted Every man You're working together as a business.
Speaker 2:No, every man wants to and at some point he will be. At some point when he does, he will do it. You know how much honor and respect and power comes with that, but that's You're not just paying the bills, you're the man. Yes, you understand, you're honored, you're praised, you're trusted in.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but most men You're not just paying bills, but most men aren't, because the idea of taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, being the protector, just being a man, isn't respected anymore Is that your expectation of what a man is.
Speaker 2:What's your expectation of what a man is?
Speaker 1:No, the expectation of being a man is leading his family, is providing for his family, is protecting his family. That is the expectations of a man.
Speaker 2:And you intend on having a family.
Speaker 1:And also teaching his family Right. So those four things are what a man and you intend on having, and also teaching his family right. So those four things are what a man is supposed to do, and the thing about it is most women are choosing money over the rest of them?
Speaker 2:are you doing that without checking under the hood? What do you mean? Are you being all those four things for someone that you didn't check under the hood? That works for you? Are you looking at how the ins and out of this person is that you're about to do this for?
Speaker 1:Oh no, and that's the thing. But that's the thing Most people don't realize that, the freedom to be anybody, for you. No, because by the time you People wear a mask for a long time.
Speaker 2:How long and I think that's what he was saying? So, is it more than six months for someone to have a mask to show you who they are as a person, for you to keep doing what you're doing?
Speaker 1:That's a valid point.
Speaker 2:Some people can keep that mask on for years. So six months is more than enough, like he's saying.
Speaker 1:Six months is long enough to know if I'm going to be functioning with you. And I'm trying to tell you, within six months you could be duped. I say it's two weeks.
Speaker 3:You could be duped in years years, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter, but I'm just saying like for me. You asked me like what I'm doing, to pretty much keep upkeep right If I already know this person's worth enough me upkeeping. I already did what I did.
Speaker 2:There's honor in there, she recognizes it, I recognize it, but I only need one pay period. Okay, give me two weeks, give me two weekends, give me two Fridays to come around.
Speaker 1:I give me two Fridays to come around. I'm gonna be like, oh, I know what to do. You understand? I think you taxing that man, that guy's great Mark what you gotta say.
Speaker 2:I just need one, I need two no, I'm gonna know who you are as a man in one paper. I think that.
Speaker 4:I see both sides to it, though, cause I think that the 50-50 thing, well, that has it's pros, obviously if you're still the sole provider.
Speaker 2:That's struggle right there 50-50.
Speaker 4:Help me out.
Speaker 2:That's like Chris Rock give me one, can I get one?
Speaker 4:If you're a family unit, though it's not like you're single and you're paying it for yourself.
Speaker 1:If you're a family unit, you could be paying 100%.
Speaker 4:But if you're a single person paying 100% versus a family paying 100%, the bill increases by at least double, maybe quadruple with a kid and you become a steward of money because you are doing that and it flows to you.
Speaker 2:Your money will come through you because you're the vessel to that family that you are a provider for I guess, but then also, like you might have, like a situation where your wife is working.
Speaker 4:That's a heavy burden.
Speaker 2:You won't have it. You won't be able to sustain it, so that's not even a problem for you If you can't sustain it. That's not your worry.
Speaker 1:I've literally had a homeboy go crazy because of the burden that was put on him that he should have let go. No, not that he should have let go. If he would have let go, he'd let his family go, but he wasn't trying to let his family go and the pressure of having a newborn child, freshly being married, being young and at the time he lost his job.
Speaker 3:I couldn't be with him you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:His woman now was the sole provider. She was kind of talking to him crazy, you know what I'm saying. And due to his probably family history, all that was enough to make him snap. He literally lost his mind.
Speaker 3:Yeah so— and that's what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying Men—that's the type of pressure men are under.
Speaker 2:So when you— I think it's not a man thing, I think it's a capitalist society thing. You got bills on your back, no, but that's what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying, but the idea behind it is a man has to now take on not only his bills, but your bills. I have to take on your hair, your nails, oh I know I really honestly, I just had this conversation.
Speaker 2:I enjoy taking care of myself. My grooming is no one else's responsibility.
Speaker 4:So you take all care of that so me taking.
Speaker 1:I don't require that and I don't size you up on how much you take care of me, but I think I think most women do.
Speaker 2:I should say in this, and that's a way to have a benchmark on how someone loves you, but that's because I do that for myself.
Speaker 4:That's like that's how mark what you're gonna say, but I think also there's a lot of times where, like having a situation where, like sure, the man is working, but then also his wife is working or the other spouse is working, wherever the situation is, and that can be something where there's two incomes. So I think having a 50-50 thing can sometimes be like you were saying. It's like a business, the family because you are going to have to make decisions together buying a place, buying cars.
Speaker 2:And you're more together.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it works Exactly. It's very beneficial because excuse me, covid, alright, it's very beneficial because, as a man, if, like they say, the average man in this country makes actually like 39,000- yeah, right, like that's the.
Speaker 2:I don't believe that no, it's true.
Speaker 3:No, it's true we live in a high.
Speaker 2:It's how you get them.
Speaker 3:Sneakers, then I don't make 39,000 no, but thank god we live in a high. It's how you get them. Sneakers, then I don't make $39,000. No, but Thank God. The average of the United States, the average is they not talking about me? No, I'm not, You're living in a D&D. We're living on the.
Speaker 4:East Coast in an affluent area. People in the you know the sort of the Midwestern sort of pockets. Cost of living is low there too, but that's what.
Speaker 1:I'm saying it's the average. Don't put me in that bucket. You above average.
Speaker 2:And I'm not talking to people like 39,000. No disrespect, that's just not where my walk is.
Speaker 1:No, but the idea behind it is there's a lot of people that make less than that. That's the average. What that got to do with me, though? Either way, I'm just saying that's the pool that's out there, so you might not be choosing from that pool. You might be choosing from a pool that's a lot higher, but the idea behind it is the pool out there is. The average man makes $39,000. So for you to expect the average man.
Speaker 2:You cannot apply that rule to everything. Come on, let's keep it real. If you take that on, let's keep this where we are.
Speaker 1:No, the idea about that is, if you take that into consideration and you think about it, that if I spun in a circle and pointed at any man, he'd probably make $39,000. But that's everybody too, Would your expectations of that man still be that high, absolutely.
Speaker 2:Someone that makes $39,000 will give their entire check towards the household and that will be his sole purpose to make sure the house is good and they will find fulfillment in it, and y'all will fail.
Speaker 1:And there's no failure. There's no failure when you have choices. 39,000 is not enough to keep the house going. It's just. 39,000 is not enough. It's a finite amount of money.
Speaker 3:But again, that's, again, that's dependent.
Speaker 2:But you shouldn't be dating if you can't afford that Like if you live in Texas, Waco Texas, that's actually Florida.
Speaker 1:I can't get no pussy because I'm broke. It's crazy, yo Ace where does my house?
Speaker 4:go Certain parts of Texas.
Speaker 2:Wait, wait, wait Ace nobody should be getting no pootie tang if they ain't got more than $39,000. That's crazy. Yeah, yo, that's all I got.
Speaker 3:We could go geographic. We can go geographic. Fucking pootie time, fucking weather time, that's all I got.
Speaker 2:I'm playing, I'm playing.
Speaker 3:But anything else y'all think about. We could have another segment on Ball Spread.
Speaker 2:This shit is going fucking too long it's going to be another segment. Hey, we done been any hoot.
Speaker 1:Hey, we'll do better next time.
Speaker 2:And his mic is going to be. I'm sniping the mic.
Speaker 1:Hey, we'll do better next time. We'll do better next time yo welcome.
Speaker 3:Hey, lex, thank you for being here. Oh, I can get my own intro now.
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